“Love means that when I’ve confessed to my mother that I’ve caused damage
while being afraid: “She’ll not love me anymore”.
And then I’m greatly surprised that she loves me still more.
You adults are rather strange sometimes”.

 
My son said these words when 3.5.
The Book is devoted to him and his mother L.
 
 
AUTHOR’S PREFACE
 
Dear Reader, at first let me treat you with familiarity by your permission. When anybody thinks this to be inadmissible I make my apologies beforehand. Now it’s time for us to come to the second Paragraph together.
 
Every time you while opening this Book may be though paying no attention suppose for receiving of anything new: feelings, knowledge, satisfaction or even any wisdom. Taking to writing of this Book I’ve understood this and I have no wish to pretend for anything you are supposing to get from the Book “Family Stories”. The only thing made me to write it was nothing else but my desire to share with you the glad felt by me some years ago and being felt at present when communication with children of different age I can secure relationships of equality, partnership and mutual understanding with them. I dare hope that upon finishing of your travel along this book you while closing the last page of it will think each member of your family became able to communicate with each other on more joyful bases due to environment of peace and harmony having arisen inside of your family.
 
How to read this book
 
At first the Book was an ordinary conglomerate of records about my family, my son and me myself having accumulated at my place. Further these records were completed by the ones about families of my friends and acquaintances, the friends and acquaintances of my friends. If I had preserved these records in their original state, nobody save me myself while reading this Book would have understood how had the concept “Discipline of Partnership” entered the life of my family and the importance of role played by this concept in future. But I’d like to tell you just about this form taken by me for organization of my relationships with the children. I have “endowed” this book with some Organization Pattern. However you shouldn’t be afraid of availability of this Pattern. You may open the book and begin reading in any place. This is due to simple structure of the Book: real stories taken from the life and simple life situations into which all without exception parents and their children fell (fall now still and will fall in future). Oh yes, these situations may differ from each other in small points (in certain life circumstances of some families) but the essence of events happening in these moments with us and our children then undergoes no changes. I’ve written such life scenes like the stories (dialogues) examination of which prompted me the idea on search of new decisions when the old (traditional) ones turned to be ineffective or, I’ll not be afraid of this word, rather traumatic both for children and for you and I when playing the role of parents.
 
I’ve substituted the names of heroes in the Book by fictitious ones having preserved the essence of the whole of Family Stories at that. What stories are included into my Book? For instance, the following one:
 
Evening. A son (his name is Sasha, he is 5 years old already) a Mother and a Father are at home.
 
Mother: Sasha go to bed, it’s nine o ‘clock p.m. already.
Sasha:   But mummy, I haven’t finished building of tower yet.
Mother: It’s too late to finish building of something. It’s bedtime.
Sasha:   But mummy…
Father: Sasha, may be enough to pester with requests. If you don’t go to bed right now,
              you’ll be punished
Sasha:   Father, I don’t like you anymore. You are malicious. Having become adult I
              I’ll order you what to do.
 
You are simply to remember. Did you hear anything like anywhere?
 
This Book is just devoted to the problem examining what and why is to be done if your child and you have lost mutual understanding.
 
It is impossible for me to ignore the fact that when in search of own decisions of problem of how and why I’ll behave myself with my child, I didn’t lose the chance of using of maximum amount of Information Sources. I paid necessary attention to Internet being of such popularity now.
 
The Copyright Act dictates the need of referring to any material hasn’t issued from my pen. I faced the option what to do with the statements found in Internet. Shall I use them in general? But there are rather outstanding and sometimes even shocking by their profundity and meaning bearing ones among them. I’ve made up my mind that if these statements had turned out to be useful for me I should have to present the ones to you, my dear Reader without fail. These statements will bear reference: “The Author is unknown. The Source is Internet”. If you, dear Reader meet the material collected by you at the pages of this Book or if you know the Author of this material please advise the Publishers about that or send a letter to my address 49044, Ukraine, Dniepropetrovsk, abonent box 2719 or to my e-mail: info@rasskazov.com.ua having transferred either data on copyrights or any other proofs of intellectual property at that. In this case one will have the opportunity to enter necessary addenda in the Book when its republishing.
 
I greatly thank to all of children and their parents having shared with me their troubles, family skeletons and upbringing secrets. GREAT THANKS them that they ipso facto of their living on this earth helped me to find the way to understanding of my child not only as a part and parcel of my family but also as an independent integrate personality which the baby presents himself since the first days of his life. The examples I’ll cite describing life situations from the life of my family I have stated in small details. This is done not because of absence of other examples but only since that I can describe just my emotional experiences and child’s behaviour in them with maximum degree of objectivity and authenticity.
 
Our life is a brilliant teacher itself. Sometimes it presents wonderful methods of education just unexpectedly at that.
 
Something like the parable:
 
“Once at night the Director of Toy Producing Factory is going along its fence. He is simply going. He is returning home. He is hardly meditating. Some factory produce was stolen. The clock-work toys are lost. And neither control nor premiums help. The gloomy dreaminess of Director is broken by sudden noise. This is something like rattling. And perhaps any jingling is heard. And the Director sees a leveret crossing the road on his hindlegs. But its walk is rather strange. This walk is typical for people having found themselves near the high-tension cable fallen. Its step is shuffling one might say, a cavalryman’s one. And what is more the leveret has small cymbals in his paws while beating one on another from time to time brokenly. The Director understands that he has gone mad. The Director swears never drink more… And only after appearance of the second hare with the cymbals he understands everything. And he flies into a rage. Certainly, everything is quite simple. The workers have dug a small manhole under the fence. And let the clock-work hares in this manhole. They have been passing this distance exclusively on their own…”
 
V. Mayer and L. Sharov Short Thieves’ Encyclopedia
Legends and Myths of Criminal World. M.,
“New Century”, 1995, p. 6-7
 
At the end of Book there are some empty pages left. When you while reading this Book will find there or remember (think out) something important for you, it will be easy to make remarks necessary for you just there. This is done also so because it’s impossible to be quite sure of having said everything when speaking about children and with them.
 
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